Am I ‘Sharenting’

Like everyone else  I have an Instagram and twitter account (though no Facebook!) which I use to share my thoughts and updates about my life on a frequent basis.

 

I mostly use twitter the most as I love being able to communicate with other bloggers and share my thoughts and ideas with them and also to see what other parents get up to.  It’s also a good way for me to be able to share my blog posts with the world.

 

I use Instagram to share pictures of my world, with most of them consisting of my baby (I know it borders on baby spam!) and my day to day life. I find myself literally taking pictures of him eating, sleeping, playing and on trips out.

 

I also started a YouTube channel about a month ago which I found completely weird sharing myself and my life in such a personal way but I have found a nice little community of parent bloggers and sometimes it’s nice to see how other people cope with parent life.

 

Recently I came across something called sharenting.  Which is when you share too much information about your children.

 

“Sharenting (or oversharenting) is a term used to describe the overuse of social media by parents to share content based on their children.”

 

I had always wondered when I started my blog if I was giving out too much information about myself, my partner and our child when he came along.  As I added more social media tools those thoughts kept coming back.

 

Do I really need to post more pictures of my baby? Is it safe? Who’s looking at it?  Who is reading my twitter?  Who is watching my videos? What if they leave a bad comment?

 

“It’s one thing if you occasionally post a picture or two of your child at his birthday party or a video of her taking her first steps. But once you share picture after picture of moments that might embarrass the kid later on, you’re officially a sharent.”

 

But when I read about sharenting it really got me thinking.  Everyone loves a picture of a new-born, their first birthday or that all embarrassing bath picture, but who really wants to see a picture of a complete stranger’s baby pop up on their feeds every day?  Especially a baby they have no relation to?

 

I also wondered about how it might affect my child in the future.  What if this defines his life?  Will he be known as the Instagram baby/kid?  The child from those YouTube videos?

 

What if my son grows up to hate me for posting a picture of him online in a nappy or that I shared with the world that he had a poop explosion before leaving the house.  I would like to think that he wouldn’t be embarrassed by the pictures I upload or the things that I share online.

 

Sometimes I really do have days where I think what am I doing?  Why am I sharing so much of my life with complete strangers?  I often also wonder if by sharing my life so much over different medias that I am placing my family’s privacy and security at risk.

I have seen a few Instagram and YouTube channels where they block out or blur their child’s face in them and this makes me feel like a bad mum by not keeping his identity private.  Maybe I should start to only share pictures that do not show his face? (Though with the amount I’ve shared already I would have to start my accounts from scratch).

 

I have to admit I always worry about being judged by other people when I post a picture or write a post.  At first, it was about my content not being too good.  But now I also worry about making my life so open with the world.

 

I also worry a lot about the information I provide on my blog and I worry about my friends or family reading it and not being happy at something I have written or posted.  I do worry about what my mum would say if she found out about my blog, but especially YouTube.  She is very old fashioned traditional about what you share with people.

 

I honestly love sharing the biggest and best change to my life, especially as being active on so many platforms mean I can reach out to somebody who might be able to help me with a problem I’m having but I do place my family’s security so highly.

 

I do take some precautions.  On my YouTube account, I cut out any bits of video that have a road name or sign that shows my location so people cannot work out where I live.  I don’t share pictures that would identify our house or make twitter or blog posts that would give away our location.

 

We really have to be careful about what we share and how we share it. I will continue to share bits of my life as I enjoy it and I just hope that my little boy will enjoy watching the videos, reading the posts and looking at the pictures when he is older.

 

Where do you stand, do you share pictures of your child online and does it worry you?

 

Mummy Bee

The Guardian – The pros and cons of ‘sharenting

A Plus – Dear Parents, ‘Sharenting’ Is Ruining Your Kids’ Lives 

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  • Latifah

    Interesting discussion! I posted a blog about this topic a few days ago. I personally don’t post pictures of my daughter online at all. I’m a firm believer that once you post images on social media, it’s no longer yours. As @mummyscorner:disqus said, there are a lot of strange people lurking all over the internet and our babies are just too precious. When my daughter is older and able to make her own decisions, she can decide on her own online presence. Nonetheless, I wouldn’t ever begrudge parents that choose to do otherwise. Again, it’s one of those parenting/sharenting decisions we make. However, I firmly believe that if you do decide to share photos online, don’t ever feel guilty about it, as your intentions were pure, I’d only suggest that precaution is taken with regards to the type of photos that are uploaded.

    • I would have to agree with you we must always take precaution when posting pictures of our children online and I can understand why you have chosen not to post pictures of your daughter.

  • The_tale_of_mummyhood

    When I first started I didn’t post any pictures with faces on any of my platforms. These days I’ve cut myself some slack and although I’m cautious I let myself enjoy sharing too! It’s such a huge grey area but as long as you stay true to yourself, you’ve cracked it! Thanks so much for linking up to#Blogstravaganza xx

    • MummyB

      I think that is the best thing to do. I am always careful about what I share but I also enjoy sharing.

    • Yes i am a bit like that I enjoy sharing but I just try to be cautious of what I post.

  • Andjacobmakesthree

    This is something I’ve worried about since I started blogging. What if I write about something like potty training and in 10 years Jacob finds it and is embarrassed? I don’t know what the answer is really! #Blogstravaganza

    • Yes that really does worry me as I really do not want to embarrass T. Its really hard but I think its fine as long as we do not share too much or share anything sensitive.

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    • MummyB

      Thank you for sharing my post, I hope that your readers enjoy it. I wrote it because of my own concerns about sharing my life while keeping my privacy.

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      Oh thats so nice thank you for featuring my post.

  • One Messy Mama

    This is a frightening topic. I too feel that maybe I share too much an have tried to tone it down. It is sad really! #globalblogging

    • It is but I just felt really strong about this topic and wanted to know how everyone else felt about it.

  • For all the reasons you cite above, I do not post visible faces of my kids on public social media platforms, Twitter, Facebook, and my blog. I will either have their faces blurred or show side/profiles. I used to have Instagram as a possible platform for followers to connect but then I realized that I really don’t care for strangers to see my kids. I really don’t no matter how nice that person is. So I deleted that as an option for blog followers to follow, made the feed private, and now only have a select group of friends and family there. Even there though, I try not to post too many front-face images. Great topic and I wish more people were cognizant of internet breaches, security, and privacy concerns. #globalblogging

    • I do sometimes think about doing that or just not posting pictures of my sons face its something I struggle with. I think that I have come to the conclusion that I will just need to be very careful about what I post.

  • Mummy’s Corner

    This is exactly how I felt when I started to get more followers online. Like you, I wanted to start my whole online presence over again not showing my children’s faces but I have definitely toned down the amount of photos and videos on Youtube showing my kids since I had my third. I’d hate for my kids to be victims of abuse, there are so many horrible people lurking online 🙁

    • Yes it is just so risky, I just don’t want it to affect my son and I get scared of people leaving horrible comments.

  • shaney morrison

    I do share photos of my children. I have been trying recently to tone it down a bit and use angles which are not showing their whole face. As our followings grow i think their privacy becomes more compromised as its no longer just friends and family looking. I do also feel that in previous generations, people would just stand in the street and gossip about what their child is doing, ok so it would have taken longer to go viral. but it is essentially the same thing. We are just proud parents who enjoy sharing our moments good and bad. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. Thank you for linking up to #globalblogging

    • I have started doing the exact same thing now I do try not take too many pictures of his whole face but i think its just not having control over the pictures that scares me.

  • This is such a tough topic and there’s loads of people on both sides of the argument. I personally don’t share photos on my blog with any of our faces on, and I use different names. I have always been overly cautious about everything, but I just hate the thought that once the photos and names are on the internet, I have no control over who sees them, or what they do with them. #BloggerClubUK

    • I know thats what got me thinking about this once I put the pictures up they are out there and it scares me to think about what people may do with the pictures.

  • Chilli Regina

    You’ve started a good discussion here. I never share my kids pictures, on my blog I do not provide any personal info that might be too personal or could possible mean a danger to my family. I would say, be cautious with sharing and what kind of pic you share. It’s not just that your kids might be embaressed later in life, watch out that you don’t give too much info on where you are, where your kids go to school or when you’re on a vacations…Too many terrible things have already happened to ignore…Thanks for linking with #globalblogging

    • Yes I completely agree with you, I do sometimes have to stop and check what I am sharing and make sure that it does not give out too much information that could hurt my family in anyway. x